Roaming the net as the lazy nerd I am, I stumbled upon an article about Ana Alicia that got my attention. For those of you that have no idea who this beautiful lady is, she played the role of Melissa Agretti on the soap Falcon Crest. Ana was on the show for seven years, playing opposite the wonderful Jane Wyman (RIP).
I actually followed that show, as the only soap I’ve ever watched more than two episodes of, and Ana were the main reason for it. I was completely smitten by the woman and being a teen at the time she had a reoccurring cameo in my hands-under-the-cover activities.
Reading the article in question it dawn on me that this is the woman that got me started on a destructive love-path. I know she played a part, a fictional character, but the personality she portrayed and her looks are almost identical to all women I’ve ever loved and seriously dated.
Yes I do have an ability to catch really hot women, which is kind of strange since I am not that special myself, but for some reason hot, really sexy women find me interesting. In particular hot, really sexy women who are psychotic manipulative bitches just risen from hell with the mission to suck the marrow and soul from poor defenseless morons as myself.
This got me thinking, am I the only one with a story like this?
I’m not saying that Ana herself is really responsible, but she sort of set the tone, she was in a way my first love and having studied psychology and having a good eye for what make people tick, I think I am right in my assumptions written here.
Psychology when applied to relationships tends to point out how similar respective spouse is to his/her mother/father. “She is looking for a father figure” isn’t just a saying; it is a darn accurate description. A sort of Oedipus complex applied to adulthood. And whenever a father or mother is absent, another person takes their place. Sexuality and sexual reproduction is however not always laid upon parental figures per say, rather the development of sexual roles and identity comes from early on imposed feelings towards a “perfect” example that tickles his or her nether regions. Boy bands on the wall of preteen girls, or a busty porn star on the wall of adolescent boys are examples of what I mean.
These sort of incestuous desires aren’t really incestuous - as with most psychology it’s more a way of explaining human behaviors and finding a cure to mental illness or a way in when talking to people with problems rather than an actual fact. However it also explains certain trait obvious to the perceptive when watching human interaction. For example whenever I look at my friends and their respective companion I always try to picture his/her mother/father as younger and it almost never fails, that spouse is 9 times out of 10 a splitting image. Not necessarily look-wise, but in behavior. Test it yourself, it’s uncanny.
This is also one of the ways any good ‘psychic’ can prod your mind and so take control of the situation letting you believe that your dead mother is close by talking to said ‘psychic’ so you will hand over your money. And it is also one of the ways you can make a really good commercial which I as a marketer I have done extensive research on.
Anyway, back to the original storyline and Ana Alicia and how she fits into my ramblings I would argue that she did tap into my evolving sexuality but also made a good case for how I want my women. I want them to know what they want, be smart and manipulative. Why? Because it challenges my intellect and such women keep me on my toes and make life interesting and I am all about experience.
Deep down inside I believe we all share this longing for something that matches how we are as individuals. I need a crazy four-winged demon woman feeding on my flesh, for others it can be about a latent Oedipus complex or maybe some significant experience in younger years that has triggered a certain desire, but whatever and whoever, it is clear to me that our deep seated need to fulfill that void is probably what drives us towards our partners. I also think this is why one partner hardly ever gets us going, but another doing the exact same thing can get us horny and ignited beyond any normal feeling.
The only thing that doesn’t really fit into my equation is fixed marriages. Fix, or arranged, marriages has been the most common way of finding a husband/wife seen over time. Strangely many of those have worked, or at least reached an acceptable level.
If I had to guess that has to do with women being tied down before in history and so today, being freer to choose, women tend to wander or test before settling on someone. If so, this also means that men are slightly less picky or happier with a so-so relationship than women are, and that is a can of worms for another day…
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