Lots of rapes – what’s the fun?

Many psychologists and others that “know” says that the act of rape isn’t about sex, it is about violence and control. Maybe that is true in one way, but most of the time I would claim that there is a fulfilment of sorts; some need, fantasy or desire to be satisfied. No matter what newspaper I check out today it seems that some woman or women have been raped. Sometimes, at least if you check out the news, it seems like men’s favourite past-time is ripping of clothes and forcing themselves on some jogging woman, on a adolescent girl or, as I curiously read today, a demented 82 year old lady.

Most rape victims have no protection since governments have outlawed self-defence and to a certain degree one needs to accept that this world have a lot of crazies running around, but I wonder how so many men (and some women) find it so fulfilling forcing themselves on others? Sure I get the fantasy. Roll-playing “rape” or having a sexual fetish involving pain or submission can be fun or at least I get that some regard it as fun, but somehow I find it very hard to relate to a rapists. I mean, you cannot really put your dick in the victim’s mouth; snap snap and swallow/spit…. And the messiness of the whole ordeal. Tearing of clothes is a hardship in itself, but just imagine putting on a condom while the woman is kicking and trying to get away. Maybe most rapists do not think about protection, but it is hard to know if your attended victim have some disease and in order to leave less evidence a condom is a good choice. Various rapists have solved most of these problems with the usage of a weapon, but that also takes focus from the actual act and having one arm less to work with seems like a negative factor. This is also why I, in most cases, tend to believe in the psychological explanation about violence and control. However the most beneficial way of dealing with all these problems is to either be several rapists (gang-rape) or to use some rope/chain in order to subdue the victim. For me however this seems to take the pleasure out of the whole thing. If the purpose of rape is to have a woman that is hardly moving, what’s the real fun? I mean, wouldn’t that imply it is better to find a nice corps?

Is there a way of solving this rape thingy? Not really. This is not a new phenomenon, sadly enough it has been used throughout the ages and it will continue. Some suggestions about how to minimize the damage exists though. For example in Sweden a condemned rapists, if he is unlucky, have around 2 years of imprisonment. Not really a deterrent, especially since the risk of getting caught is minimal. Longer imprisonment, preferably with some additional punishment like limbs being chopped off, would be a better deterrent. Also this would send out a signal to the victims that they actually matters. Another thing is of course to carry a gun. As mentioned most governments do not like citizens defending themselves, that’s the government’s job. But if every rapist out there knows that there is a big chance the victim carries a 9mm, at least some rapes could be avoided. Also some rapists might get shoot, which no one should cry about. Lastly it is time to stop all religious fanatics and anti-sex people that is only forcing prostitutes underground, making the sex-issue more taboo and suppressing people’s desires. We need more nudity and much more sex in this world. With the exception for the really crazy ones, I believe that better education, a much more sexual environment and a none-judgemental world would keep some “normal” people from committing this crime.